CONNECTING WITH YOUR CHILD BEFORE CORRECTING THEM
It is definitely wrong. Why?
Parenting in this NEW WORLD.. With so many advanced technologies.. It’s not kidding. I salute all those who are still managing to keep up.
Play makes kids want to cooperate rather than rebel. Instead of saying, “Come eat your lunch right now!“, You may say, “Hey! Chipmunk, it’s time for lunch — Look, you have fruits, worms and nuts on your plate!” The child might run to the dining table.( Make believe game )
As family therapist Virginia Satir famously said, “We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.”
Do whatever you need to do to schedule 15 minutes with each child, separately, every day. Alternate doing what your child wants and doing what you want during that time. On her days, just pour your love into her while you follow her lead. On your days resist the urge to structure the time with activities. Instead, try any physical activity or game that gets your child laughing.
“Wow!….. Really?…Great! How did you feel?… Tell me more…”
The habit of seeing things from your child’s perspective will ensure that you treat them with respect. You are talking their language. It will help you see the reasons for behaviour that would otherwise drive you crazy. Listen to them as they want to be heard. Believe me! It will make wonders.